Quotes I love & Why
1. “Don’t count the days, make the days count”- Muhammad Ali
Recently I've been counting how many days are left until I've got a concert or event which is not helping my mental health because by counting, I'm focusing on the negatives and dreading that I’ve got 14 days until my next event and that I've got nothing planned.
However, I'm only young so I should be excited that I've got 14 days to plan anything I want. I can go out with friends, have a day with my boyfriend, catch up on a TV show, practise on my skills, go on a walk, game night was my family or even have a self-care day.
From now on I'm going to make everyday matter and not only the ones where I've got a concert, a nice dinner or holiday. My aim for everyday is to laugh, do what I love and getting closer to my goals day by day with the ones I love around me and supporting me.
2. “Accept the things I cannot change and change the things I cannot accept”- Unknown
This one I am trying to work on currently. Accepting the things, I cannot change can be challenging for me this is when I plan my day I expect and want everything to go the way I planned wait it doesn't I get quite upset and threw a strop which is childish and I'm working really hard to change my mindset because I know I can do it. When my boyfriend has a day that doesn't go as well as he wanted, I tell him it's okay and that there's always other things to do or ways to get where you want to be. So, I’m going to start taking my own advice.
Changing things I cannot accept I sometimes struggle with because if I see someone getting bullied or hearing someone say something behind someone’s back I’m usually the first to speak up because bullying has significant effects such as anxiety, depression etc. I’ve been bullied throughout my younger years I know what it feels like but I had a thicker skin so I never let it get to me, but I know not everyone can get over it so easily. However, when it comes to me changing something in my personal life I find it really hard and I push it back and I never do it.
I keep this quote in my head and it helps me be motivated to help myself.
3. “If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow”- Buddha
I found this quote at the end of 2021 when it felt like my longest friendship was falling apart. This really hurt me because I had no clue what I had done wrong she was just distancing herself from me and each time I tried to ask her if anything was wrong, she would just start arguing with me. Each argument left me more damaged. I could only focus on how hurt I was that my best friend was drifting away that I suffered with that pain for months and I wouldn’t like it go.
Once I realised, I’m done feeling like the bad friend she had made to believe I was. I started looking at what I learned at the time, and I stopped chasing trying to mend the friendship that had been broken. I learned that if someone is making you feel insignificant and thinking in a negative way about yourself let them go and stop attempting to help it, it will make you feel worse.
Since letting her drift from best friend to just friend who I still awkward with after the situation. I have become a much happier person and started living the life I wanted trying new things and making more friends. This quote helped me out a dark place and I hope it can do the same for you.
4. “The longer you hold on to something, the heavier it becomes”- Unknown
Usually if someone hurts me mentally, I can hold a grudge for a while (in the past I've held some for years) for no reason, I don't know why because the thing/person the heart me was well out of my life. it has become easier to let things go because I've started a process for doing so.
1. Play all the negative feelings out e.g., venting, or writing it down
2. Be gentle with yourself. show yourself the same empathy and love you would show others in this same situation
3. Surround yourself with people/ things that you love
I still don't know why I held on to some things for so long but that's okay.
Curiosity is a beautiful thing.
5. “Think progress not perfection”- Ryan Holiday
Throughout my life I have thrived to make others proud of me thinking that what they want is perfection. So, if it wasn't I would beat myself up about it and get so frustrated I didn't really take a second to look at the little steps I have achieved along the way.
A point in time when I started thinking about progress was when I started to lose weight because most things in life don't happen overnight like this. Now I always look back and look at all my achievements I have made along the way. Such as I couldn't get into these jeans a couple weeks ago but I can. I couldn't run for 10 minutes straight but now I can run for 30 minutes straight.
Little things along the way to reach your goal make you more motivated and satisfied once you reach that target.
